Why? Because you are the universe doing something. You’re not an accident or an afterthought. Who you are shows the rest of us what’s possible. Self-respect isn’t about ego—it’s about walking in alignment with yourself. And you can start right now.
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Say yes and no.
You don’t need reasons that make sense to anyone else. Our yeses and nos show who we are and what we care about—let us see who you are.
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Don’t over-pathologize yourself.
Not everything is a trauma response or a red flag. Some of it is just personality, preference, or being human. Self-respect means not making all of you a problem to fix.
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Hold your emotions without judging them.
They’re not a problem to solve—they’re important data about yourself and what’s important to you. Let them move through, observing with curiosity and without judgment.
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Sleep. Nourish. Move.
You don’t make good choices tired. Sleep to nurture clarity. Feed yourself well—not perfectly, just intentionally. Your body is built to move; enjoy what you’re capable of.
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Clean and groom with care.
You don’t have to be fancy, just intentional. Adorn your vessel. Not for approval, but for reverence and gratitude.
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Build a ritual you’re excited to wake up for.
Light a candle. Make the good coffee and sit outside watching the sun rise. Have something that gives you a reason to rise.
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Keep your word.
Follow through on the promises you make to yourself and others, even the quiet ones. That’s how self-trust and integrity are built.
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Ask for what you need.
Self-respect isn’t just boundaries—it’s self-advocacy.
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Own your mistakes.
Self-respect means being honest with yourself, but not cruel. Accountability isn’t the same as self-punishment. Courageously take credit for wins and losses.
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If it’s not obvious to them why they should stay, let them go.
If you find yourself explaining your worth, it’s already game over with that person. Let them go without drama or bitterness. Put your energy toward people who readily see your value—and respect you enough to challenge you when it matters.
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Treat others well—on purpose.
How you treat people reflects how you feel about yourself. Respecting others brings better energy—and often, better treatment—back to you.
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Treat yourself like someone worth knowing.
Because you are. Even on the tough days.
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Sarah Sevedge has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology and is a licensed mental health counselor in private practice.
Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as healthcare or medical information nor to diagnose or treat any disorder or condition. It does not constitute personal or professional consultation or create a therapist-client relationship.